So, we've all heard the saying "it's what's inside that counts"(probably from our mothers), and it would be a pretty idyllic society if this were true. If only people saw through whatever outer shell someone had and got to know them for their character, personality, experiences, hopes, dreams, values, etc. Then it wouldn't matter if someone were fat, bald, had a big wart on their nose...
But how long does it take us having contact with someone to even start to look deeper? 'First impressions', and resulting first judgements, really seem to stick with us.
I've heard of a trend called "Dating in the dark"- you get to know someone through conversation first, and then if you are both still interested, with the lights on. Of course, there's also "speed-dating", where it's pretty much what you see and can gather from a 5-minute conversation that are the only hints before you choose who you like enough to see again.
I wonder which is more popular?
So many people, though they might have gotten together because of shallow reasons, stay together because of shared experiences, troubles weathered, and after getting to know what really makes the other tick.
Looks eventually fade, "assets" get saggy, hair thins...
What do you think?
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